This statement abjectly contradicts your previous commentary about conservative views being rooted in philosophy that is antithetical to “liberal" views. How can the futures that the two opposing sides aspire and build towards ever be in alignment, how can one side believe the other has it’s best interest in mind, if their very worldviews are literally diametrically opposed?
The answer to that (which is THEY CAN’T. EVER.) is rooted in the socio-historic landscape that your arguments, in the most typically myopic white privileged of ways, completely fail to recognize. Conservativism is a euphemism for white supremacy. It really means conserve all the resources (read: spoils of war) garnered by 500 years of (still ongoing) genocidal colonization of black, brown, femme identifying and queer people the world over. These are the “resources" that procured the ways of life that conservatives doggedly fight to maintain. Which is why they are all, yes, by sheer proxy and ideological inheritance, racist, misogynistic and homophobic. And xenophobic due to their paranoid fear of karma, of losing their I’ll gotten gains.
Until your arguments are anchored in deeper research, research that takes into account the black, brown, femme, queer and indigenous voices upon whose backs the entire fulcrum of this whole “Conservative” vs. “Liberal"debate is actually, albeit obliviously, being waged, you will always achieve a false balance just as easily swiped away as a white cop’s peace at the sight of an unarmed black teenager. Which is to say knee jerk reactionary consevatism (read: racism) like that of your husband’s and shallow pacifying rebuttals (like this post’s) are to be expected when your knowledge and analysis of history and the lived experiences of oppressed nonwhite people is so nonexistent.
You’ll never understand your dilemma until you more deeply engage the black, brown, femme and queer backs your position tramples all over. Read Frantz Fanon, James Baldwin, Audre Lorde, Toni Morrison, Frederick Douglass, WEB DuBous, Aime Cesaire, Lorraine Hansberry, Mumia Abu Jamal, Kiese Leymon, Tanehisi Coates, bell hooks, Eduardo Galeano, for starters. Until voices like these expand your pool of awareness, you’ll be splashing in puddles looking for depth. Talking in circles looking for a way out.